Dear teentoday: the unprotected sex edition
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Dear TT, I have had unprotected sex with my boyfriend a couple of times. Now I think I may have something. Sex or any touching ‘down there’ is sore. I am also scared I smell. What’s wrong with me?? What can I do? Please help!
Firstly, we’re not going tell you that you shouldn’t have had sex, BUT if you are going to have sex make sure he’s wearing a condom!
REMEMBER! Condoms are the only contraception that protects against STIs and pregnancy.
Now, for whatever reason you’re sore ‘down there’. You MUST do something about this - putting it off is a very bad idea. Arrange to get tested today.
Free and confidential advice and treatment is available from your GP or specialist clinics in your area.
REMEMBER! Most hospitals have special clinics called Genito-urinary medicine (GUM) clinics. Click here to see where you can get tested in confidence in your local area.
Comments
Jelly_babe
Why did you have unprotected sex? You could be pregnant! Do you think you’re ready to look after a baby? They’re smelly, uncontrollable aliens!
Emelita
Jelly, to be perfectly honest, that was rather harsh of you to say. Babies are NOT aliens. They’re beautiful and unique, and yes they’ll smell a bit when they’re younger but they’re only babies. Anyway, having unprotected sex can cause a bit of damage to yourself as stated above.. pregnancy or STD’s and such. Always stay safe with a condom!
Lauren
I think its up to both of them
CODYS*GIRL*
ITS SCARY TO THINK THAT U COULD BE PREGNATE ITS REALLY IS
AND ITS NOT AN ALIEN AND Y DIDNT U USE ONE THATS KINDA POINTLESS IF U DONT WANT TO GET PREGNATE, I REALLY THINK U NEEED 2 USE A CONDOM U NEED TO TAKE A TEST 2 SEE IF YOU HAV HIV’S OR SOMTHIN THAT CAN REALLY HURT U
JUST GET TESTED
Ebony
Condoms are quite cheap, easy to get and take just a minute of your time to put on..... babies, are quite expensive to care for, and will take up ALOT of your time.... STIs will not be pleasant either and will not just “go away”.... it’s SO not worth the risk of having unprotected sex....
Jess
you have quite a few ways to be safe. even when you dont want to be safe , make sure it is what you want!
Blinco's-Baby
You Should Really Go And See Your Doctor Straight Away If Anything Eles Happens It Could Stop You Having Children When Your Ready To Have A Family
niki
better not to have sex (;
Bruno
From wat i have heard the one thing doctors and everyone else dont want to tell u is there is no such thing as “safe sex” The number one STD among teens is HPV or Human Papiloma Virus. You can get this disease from wearing a condom or not. You can get this from oral sex also what i believe is you really dont want to have sex with someone you dont want to spend the rest of your life with. Im just trying to say that from what i know which is alot trust me i know a guy who is a sex doctor preacher kinda guy who goes around the world telling high school students this and he has written many books on this stuff and how to love your body and your love. Also if you get treated for HPV and some other STD’s you can lose the chance to have babies in the future and bringing a kid into the world is a great gift but respect it. I am also 14 and believe all of this!
J4D3ZB4B1
firstli i fort she sed bwt STI nt pregnancy, 2bh yu shudv askd bf to get checkd tht way yu no tht yu cant catch nethn jushh incase yu did av unprotctd sex. n if its nethn to do wid pregnancy av the pill or implant or sumit. jushh be safe if yu dunt wnt STIs n a bby!
Honest
This topic has just made me laugh. This is the reason why…
The amount of teenage “pram pushers” seen around today is actually disgusting, what’s more is that the majority of teen pram pushers don’t actually know what the **** they are doing. This is sad because they create a bad impression on the baby they have brought in to the world and a lot of them don’t get the 100% care a baby needs.
I saw a young girl pushing a pram down the street not so long ago, she was with a friend or so it seemed. And this girl was obviously overweight but she had the confidence to where tight shorts and a short cut vest and let me tell you that this wasn’t pretty. As much as I know I shouldn’t judge, seeing this girl in particular pushing a pram is disgusting. Simply because she should be sorting herself out and looking after herself at that age.
A good hand full of teens need to see that having a baby is hard work and that no, they are not always cute and they most certainly not easy.
badbabe
u should of used a condom but uv done it now so....
its up 2 u
Madi
Aye. Listen tha way i was told by someone that was close ta me was that “If he doesnt have a rain coat, he cant play in the rain.” i mean sure ur gunna get hot nd heavy nd its gunna be hard not ta do it. but your life isnt worth ruining for a good 2 minutes or 2 hours. no matter how long your life is worth so much more. and i doubt you wunna have a baby realli yung. Trust me, its hard. screaming,crying, not knowing if you’ll be able to support it, having to work 2-3 different jobs. im tellin yah. get checked out nd if everythings good them jus wrap it up next. just be craeful.
denay
i think its up too both lass and lad because 1 just cant decide
ledge
god guys calm down!
un - protected sex feels ten times better… get over it! and just have it with ya gf wont catch ne sti shizz!
diva
How can you even thimk that ?
It may feel better but she could’ve had unprotected sex with someone who does have an sti. and then guess wat happens you get it…
or you cld give one to her. or if you’re going to have unprotected sex with your gf and that’s wat you both want then you shld get a sexual health screaning !
JessJess
Whats done is done lovely, tbh I’ve been in the same suituation as you’re in now!! All you have to do is go along to your local youth advisery/family planning clinic and ask them can you do a pregnancy test to see if you’re pregnant, and then ask them then can they send that sample off to the labs so that they can check it for and STD’s and they can then give you treatments if the results come back possitive. I know what you’re thinking and going through - i’ve been there myself - but the likeliness of it all is that you’re fine - i was fine, just paranoid because you hear so much these days. Believe it or not - alot of teenagers go through this and just don’t speak out about it - you’re a brave girl and don’t let people put you down!!
Been There
I have been in this situation and all of you people who are sayin that you should of wore a condom well your right but when ur in that zone afta something romantic you can stop it. Listen, first of all if you r ur partners first theres a high chance you aint got an std and if your worried about binin preg buy a test i no der expensive (£20) for a good one but it needs to be done and do it more than once. If your going to have unprotected sex make sure he wihdraws but also watch out for pre come. good luck bab.
andy
sex is so much better without a condom, it turns me on spunking all over her tits
tee hee hee
well, i think unprotected sex is just silly, no matter how much fun it is, its just pointless with the risks, i think sex with a condom is good enough. and tit wanks hurt, leave our boosoms alone,
cHloE BaBz
i think it was stupid to do tht but if u r pregnant it is time to be responsible and tak care of it right and babies arn alians there cute
luv chloe good luck XxXxX